How can I get out of a violent marriage alive?

RUN, RUN, RUN. Like Julia Roberts in Sleeping with the enemy. Go start a new life for yourself and you children. Go to the court house and find out if there is a center for abused persons for help to get out of the relationship. Put a restraining order on him to leave you the hell alone. I'm sooo sorry you have to go through this. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck and God Speed.